[server] Mysql, can only coect from local host?

So, I've got a VM ruing ubuntu server, then I've got a laptop ruing ubuntu desktop, that is being a server/desktop for a week or so. (Gua run testing game servers on it)
The server has phpmyadmin on in and I can use that fine, but I can't seem to get me laptop's game server to use Mysql.
I tried to telnet from both my server and laptop. The server will coect to itself though local host, but this.

The laptop won't coect to it at all.
How can I setup my Mysql server to allow coections from my lan? Do note I allowed 3306 though ufw on laptop and the VM don't seem to have a firewall?
My router is not port forwarded on this port as I don't want anyone coecting to it, from outside my local network.
I went to my /etc/mysql/ and I checked every config file in there and nothing looked like I could put a IP in it, as I found a forum here, but it was from 2010.
I tried the first line of code, with the grep. There was about 5 lines and 1 was very long.

Thanks,
Higgins909